Learn to Feel
This is another obvious one, and it goes along with the fourth tip, but it’s necessary, too. Don’t let your feelings build up. Are you disappointed, angry, sad, jealous or excited? Whatever it is, acknowledge it. Decide what it means and what you’re going to do with this knowledge.
Is it a hopelessly-single night? Do you want to cry about it? Do it. It’s okay and you’ll likely feel better afterward. Living the single life isn’t always easy.
Explore More People
Most people are admittedly awful at this. Meet others without the intention of meeting a potential partner, too. Just talk to different people. See what others have to say, and step outside of your comfort zone. Drop the self-consciousness and present your honest self. This isn’t as easy as it sounds, so keep working on it and soon, you’ll see a difference.
Be True to Yourself
Did you meet someone you really like? Did you just accidentally “like” a Facebook photo from 2007 while you were snooping? These things happen, and they will always feel embarrassing. You can either play games with yourself or you can be honest, it’s your move.
What do you have to lose if you tell someone you’re interested in them? Wouldn’t you like to hear it? Yes, it’s terrifying, but it’s better than hoping they’ll eventually realize that you’re interested and decide to make the first move themselves. It can be terribly embarrassing, and you may feel entirely silly, but if it’s genuine to you, say it.
So, drop the games. After all, you’re an adult. Just try to be as brave as you can. You should also extend this honesty to online dating, and relationships in general, too. Practice this because it will help strengthen your other relationships and further your own self-awareness.
Be odd on purpose. Do something you wouldn’t normally do, like karaoke. You get extra points if you do it while sober. Again, you’ll survive and you even may learn something about yourself. So, be weird, but be safe.
Live your best single life, regardless of whether or not you are going to be part of a couple. You will undoubtedly screw up at times, but it’s okay to live your life for you. You shouldn’t have to wait for another person to be able to make moves. Take yourself out on Valentine’s Day or go out for drinks with friends just because. Try something new. If it doesn’t work out, it’s still an experience you will learn from.
This is advice for anyone, anywhere, but it’s particularly helpful for those who live a single life. So, don’t be afraid to be single. Use the time to develop yourself into the type of person you want to be. Learn who you are without relying on another person to complete you. And, most of all, learn how to be alone with yourself. Because if you can’t stand to be alone with yourself, why should someone else be expected to do the same?